Looking back on some of my posts recently, I’ve noticed a pattern: I like having a good whinge. Sadly, I often focus on what’s wrong rather than what’s right. Like most people, when asked what I truly want, I’d say that I just want to be “happy”. But what does this really mean and how can we make it happen?

Have a good think about what would make you happy – more cash, a new job, car or relationship? Your ‘wants’ might sound a bit superficial but keep digging and think about how you want to feel. It might be that your ‘wants’ actually represent increased feelings of freedom, self-confidence or love, and that’s what would make you happier.

A few months ago, I got into the habit of writing a daily gratitude list, something I’m going to start up again. Some of the things on my list were as small as a text from a friend, a coffee made by my favourite barista or a home-cooked meal. Some were bigger, like good health, my loving husband, my wonderful family. Some days your list might be ridiculously long; other days it might be a struggle to come up with two or three things. It doesn’t matter – as long as what’s on the list contributes to your happiness.

Getting into the habit of writing down and acknowledging what you’re grateful for will make you feel good. Even if you’re having a bad day, you can always think of a couple of things to go on the list and putting pen to paper will help you put things in perspective, release the day and put you in an ‘attitude of gratitude’ mindset. And, at the risk of sounding a bit ‘New-Thought’ preachy, like really does attracts like. You’ll find the more you’re thankful for, the more of the good stuff you’ll get.